26 Jan Us Vs. Them
I have never felt as much division between myself and other people as this past year. It seems that our “differences” have somehow been amplified and in some cases even become deal breakers in relationships.
I feel like it is almost not “possible” anymore to have different opinions on topics such as health and politics for example. This has greatly affected me and I am sharing this with you to see if it resonates and if you have your own experiences to share.
What inspired me to write this blog was listening to a podcast by JP Sears. I discovered his funny “How to be Ultra Spiritual” videos about 7 years ago while I was studying Pranic Healing. I found them so spot on and a refreshing reminder to never take ourselves too seriously. I recently discovered his podcast and found one of the episodes inspiring, it definitely resonated with me. However I noticed that something he was saying bothered me: he referred to himself and his “followers” as “awakened” warriors living from the heart whereas people who were not into him were “asleep” and living a life based on “fear” (you can read my earlier blog about fear as I often do not agree with how it is talked about!). Although I was kind of flattered to think myself part of JP Sears’ “awakened warriors”, I observed this sense of division come up again and it made me feel uneasy.
I thought back to my Arhatic Yoga classes with Master Hector Ramos where he warned us that the biggest potential pitfall and challenge for the spiritual disciple would be pride. He explained that we would need to constantly monitor our self esteem and our pride as they are two sides of the same coin. When our self esteem is low, we use pride as a crutch to make ourselves feel better than other people. Acting like we know it all, actually hides a deep insecurity of worthlessness. We need to remember that we know some things but that we do not know everything. If we feel that our self esteem is low, we can remind ourselves of all the things we are good at. When we notice that we are feeling “better” than others, or that we feel that we “know” more than others, we can remind ourselves of what these other people are good at and what they know. I find that this is a continuous and challenging practice.
Even though I can be inspired and resonate with people fighting for certain causes, I realised that their way is not the ONLY way and their causes are not the ONLY causes. What they believe in or do does not make them “better people”. It is perhaps an area in their lives where they feel connected, alive and “awake”, one that I may share with them. Whereas other people might be more “awake” in other areas of their lives. Sometimes I noticed that it can also be easier to passionately fight for outside causes rather than change ourselves and our own daily lives. I always loved the expression “charity begins at home”, which I do not find easy to apply.
We are all finding our way and we are all so interesting once we actually stop and listen to each other, while trying not to feel “attacked” (my previous blog was actually about taking things personally…).
“Different people can have different opinions and still be right. There are different levels of truth and different facets of truth.” MCKS.